Don’t worry about feeling beautiful every day, learn how to have a good day when you look your worst.
This is the singular piece of advice that helped me most in high school, y’all. It’s exhausting to try to feel pretty 24/7, it’s much more successful to learn that you can feel ugly and still be deserving of love and respect. It’s a hard process, but so, so worth it.
Hi everyone! My sister Melissa is 10-years-old, disabled, and petitioning American Girl to release an American Girl doll with a disability. “Disabled girls are American girls too. We face challenges and overcome them everyday.” Disabled girls deserve to see themselves represented.
Please, sign her petition and share it with your friends to support an American Girl who has a disability.
For all the disabled girls out there who deserve to know that they are beautiful and loved, just as they are. For my sister.
I hate when people are like “The safest way to have sex is abstinence!1!1” I mean imagine if that was the way we were taught everything.
"What’s the safest way to study?"
When confidence relies on beauty, bad days for the body become bad days for the mind. Girls’ sense of worth crumbles, leaving them insecure and ignorant as to how to handle it; emphasizing beauty as a requirement for self-love means that the absence of beauty must lead to an absence of love. Teaching girls how to avoid these days is impossible, teach them to handle these days. Teach girls that they are funny, smart, engaging, compassionate, kind, insightful and valuable, and then figure out a better way to teach them that, if they want to, they can feel beautiful, too.
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Q:Hi ladies! I just want you to know that I think you're awesome. I remember reading 17 magazine and having some real WTF moments, and nowhere to call that crap out. Now I'm 30 and I'm still like dang..what? So... I'm super stoked that you awesome ladies are questioning The Man and taking him to town via tumblr and being amazing. I'm just proud of you and I don't even know you! I wanted to tell you!
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Q:stray woman of color taking the time to also point out the highly racialized part of being considered a "prize". i consider myself a prize because honestly as an apache/aztec mixed lady, i can't rely on men (or other ladies) to realize what a prize i am so it's important to remind myself that even in this power structure, /i am valuable and worth being desired/. it's generally white women that are considered prizes!
<3 <3 <3 to everything you said.
So first, I’m responding as a white woman so obvs there is loads of privilege in the way that I read pop music and inevitably in this response.
I really relate to not being able to rely on getting affirmation from other ppl as a teen girl bc we’re basically told by everyone we know to hate ourselves and want to change everything about ourselves (Hi, Time magazine) so any song that has a woman telling herself or other women that they are WONDERFUL VALUABLE TREASURES is such a breath of fresh air and can be really liberating.
Q:I apologize if someone's already pointed this out, but I read through the challenge about a month ago, and when I got to the playlist that Alice made, I ended up replaying Potential Breakup Song several times. The next day, I started thinking about the lyrics. "You're not winning til you're winning, winning me" seems to turn women into a prize, and for a challenge that is shows how ridiculous the media ideals for girls can be, it was a curious choice for a song. Did you notice that in the song?
Hm this is a really interesting point, no one has brought it up!
I always thought of that as them saying that they’re a prize as in someone of high value. I think that if we’re assuming that they are the speaker in the song I’m okay with them defining themselves however they want, you know? They’re the one’s calling themselves a prize which is different than a guy signing about a girl calling her a prize.
Within the context of the song it seems like they’re like “you aren’t treating me right so you aren’t worth my time” which is generally good imho. It’s kind of a similar theme to “Irreplaceable” where she’s like “smh I mean you can go and try to find other girls but you’ll never do better than me.”
TBH I picked that song for its danceability but I do see your point here, thanks for the message!